Last week some Russian government officials made public statements that said that Russian is ready to care for their own children (a good thing). They elaborated this by saying that Russia is banning countries that allow same-sex marriage unless a bilateral agreement exists. Canada qualifies as one of these countries.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's wonderful that Russia has been working on their ability to care for their children. It took Canada time to be able to do the same thing, and eventually we were able to.
However, $25,000 into this and we're losing a lot of money. It's all gone. Non-refundable by our agency. Non-transferable to another country.
We spoke to our provincial authorities yesterday and they were very supportive and encouraged us to look into other countries. Unfortunately, other countries don't appeal to us. We chose Russia because Russia was the right fit for us. We adore the culture and have started adopting it here at home. We have started learning the language and learning some customs.
We also have spent the last year reading everything we could on parenting post-institutionalized children. We have researched, talked to professionals and set up a great support system.
We have connected with other Russian adoptive parents so we could have a Russian surrogate family here for our munchkin.
We have prepared our child's bedroom. At first we were holding off, but then we needed to provide some photos of a prepared bedroom. So we prepared a room.
We have everything a child could ever need. And more.
So we are ready for for our child. Very ready.
We committed to Russia. We chose carefully. We did a lot for research first. We are not choosing another country. It wouldn't be the right fit for us.
Our agency, and the others in Canada, are saying very little about the situation. No formal laws have been changed yet. Yet. So until there are formal law changes, our agencies can't say or do much.
However, with that said, Kemerovo, a popular region is Russia, ceased all international adoptions last week.
And with the blatant public statements being made by officials - well, we've been advised to expect the worst. Our agency, our province, and every other expectant couple we know. We all know it's over. We're just waiting for the official international statements.
This is the first time I've been a real expectant parent. And it's all slipping away.
Devastation isn't a strong enough word.